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Teal Swan And Reading And Following Spiritual Leaders.


This morning I woke up with the image of Teal Swan in my mind. I am not a follower or have any connection with her personally. We are all connected to each other and the feeling I have about this momentary connection is that of an energy that has been created due to a particular episode. Today was no exception and there was in fact a reason that could influence many people. 

It is not habitual in me to write about anyone or to examine someone's path in life unless they ask me to and don't intend to make it a habit either. In fact, this is the first time that I write a specific person. I believe that today it is for a good reason. Out of curiosity the first and obvious step I took was to seek information online. I was neither shocked, nor surprised to find out that the third entry on my search was a blog post to slander Teal. I also found a Youtube video from a woman who took upon herself to 'warn' everyone how dangerous it is to follow Teal Swan.

It is true that it is dangerous to listen to certain people. When it comes to listening to someone who strives to inspire and heal others or to criticise someone else with a corrosive message I know who I am going to listen to. What others do and listen to is none of my concern.

How this self-proclaimed-Youtube-saviour associates Teal with certain terms is beyond me and there is no logic to how one term after another can be related to her. But so it is how other people had the audacity to 'reveal' the truth about someone they never met in person. There is also a fact that I find alarming: I read terms such as "dangerous", "psychopath" or "sociopath" "possible cult leader" "narcissist" among many other pearls. How we speak of others says more about ourselves than about the people we are talking about. 

Anyone who has a public presence no matter how small it is will be targeted by others. All that is required is to have an online profile and post information of any nature. The more successful one is, the more they are going to be targeted. To slander someone just because their beliefs conflict with our beliefs is a different matter and even though today the intention today was to write on a different subject I cannot sit here and consider anything else than this blog post. 

Only a week ago I received a very similar attack, with akin comments to the ones I read today about Teal from a woman I used to know years ago and from whom I had not heard from in 11 years. There were very powerful reasons not to be in touch with her. 11 years after I see that she has not yet managed to let go of our differences. What these critics do not realise in their blindness is that they have provided us with enough evidence to take legal action for defamation of character. 

Whether we decide to follow this line of action or not is a complete different matter, but I believe it is time that we all back off, explore and deal with our own fears and begin to support and uplift each other. If humanity wants to have a future the only way we will achieve it is through cooperation and understanding that we are all connected.

I couldn't finish reading neither the two 'articles' I checked nor the video I started watching. I have no intention to poison myself with such derogatory messages.The first thing that stroke me was the low vibrational energy that they carry. The second, and one to which being a writer I always pay attention is the language used, in these cases destructive and undermining. 

I remember reading years ago a book length literary essay by Milan Kundera on Ernest Hemingway that really resonated with me claiming that Hemingway, knowing of the importance of language and its message he deliberate chose every word he wrote. Being deliberate in our actions is something I have always admired in others. We might make mistakes, but what really matters is our intention to evolve and transcend our humanity through our actions. 

There were also many entries from which I only took the highlights about Teal's life and truth, who and what she is. As far as I am concerned, she is the only one who knows her truth and the only one who has to live with it. The saying 'the truth shall set you free' does not relate to someone else's truth, but our own truth. I already wrote about the subject in 'Seeker After Truth' if anyone was interested in reading it. Focusing negativity on others is only an excuse to validate our own beliefs whether they are right or not.

Of course, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But it is how we express this opinion is what has an impact on who and what we are. I have not personally met Teal and I may or may not have an opinion about her. What I see is woman who had and has the courage to speak her truth, share her knowledge and does her best to inspire others exposing herself publicly. That courage is much more than what most people can say for themselves.

Finally I went directly to the source and watched one of Teal's videos about shadow work. I had heard about it, but I was never curious enough and in order to decide whether to write this article or not, I had to see it for myself. What I heard speaks truth to me and in fact it is something I have been sharing publicly even before I heard of Teal although it is articulated differently. At this point, one could question whether someone is original in their work or not. My only to answer to this is that universal truth has no owner and belongs to everyone. There are those who have a direct connection with this source and choose to share it with the world. That's all. Everyone is a leader and a teacher.

At no moment I had the intention to dip into Teal's life and depict every episode that led her where she is now. Our life's experiences are vehicles that transport us to where we are supposed to be and this includes every mistake we made, as well as embracing each one of these mistakes and the lessons they come with. Our past is not who or what we are. Identity is what we do here and now. Nothing else. 

I also read that Teal shares knowledge and experiences that do not relate to this world. It is no surprise that sharing this kind of material attracts both, the right and the wrong kind of attention. Again, this is courage. My only position on this is that we all have a different message to deliver to the world. I prefer to make spirituality practical, starting from the beginning towards the moment of ascension. This is because I feel a strong call to fix the problems in this world and I believe that everything else is a distraction, but I do not disapprove of others sharing such messages. Everyone is at a different level of awareness and consciousness and what might work for one, might not work for another. 

What is clear to me that each of us will reach a limited amount of people, thus, everyone out there contributing to spread awareness, healing, enlightenment or any other term they are familiar with is celebrated. 

What one has to consider when reading or following a spiritual leader is how they feel about their teachings following our intuition. The example I can give regarding this topic is one from personal experience. 

Years ago a friend suggested that I attended Claudio Naranjo's retreat. I was also told that he was the best transformational teacher there was. At the time I couldn't afford it and decided not to go. The truth is that the fees were not that high, considering what others charge. My decision changed a couple of days later. My intuition was telling me to go, so I borrowed the entire amount from a very generous credit card. By the time the retreat was over and considering the results, I would have paid ten times what they asked for it.

I must also say that I went there not knowing who Claudio was. I have never been fascinated by any leaders, idols or public figures and in this case I didn't make an exception. I went there for the experience. And the experience was what made a difference. While most people were distracted by the image of Claudio as a public figure and spiritual teacher and his teachings, books and methods, all I wanted was the experience. 

When meeting Claudio I didn't think much of him. As he began to speak my perception changed and so my attitude by the end of the last retreat. Today Claudio is someone a bow to, and so I do to every facilitator who works with him, as they were fundamental in directing me in the last steps of my personal transformation. Such is the appreciation for this gift that I can only 'repay' it by helping others in whichever way I can.

What it was most fascinating about Claudio's speech was that by talking to a group of people is that he had individual messages for everyone. When such messages resonate with us, we can consider then as a little awakening. And this is what we have to look for in a spiritual leader. That part of their teachings that sounds of a truth that we have been looking for and could not articulate until that moment. If both Teal and Claudio have so many 'followers' is due to this truth and nothing else. We must also learn to separate from the image of the leader, until we realise and everyone is a leader. 

The leaders we all have to worry about are the ones that ask for our vote year after year making empty promises they never deliver, promoting wars, causing death and devastation around the world and making sure the general population is concerned with finance, housing, illness and a long list of obstacles most people must face on daily basis. It seems easy enough to print money so as to lend it to consumers and create a debt that it will never be repaid, but for some unknown reason, it is not possible to print this money in order to end poverty. 

On a final note. Whether Teal is for profit or not, is no one's business either. Under the current financial system everyone is entitled to make as much money as they want to or they can. My understanding of this statement is that the profits from her work will be destined to reach and help more people. There is nothing wrong with providing a comfortable life for ourselves. To question this from the comfort of our homes sitting in front of a computer might not be for the right reasons. 

When we go to a book shop we might know the book we want to buy or not. We can choose to buy a new author at chance or to read one we already know. When we have a bad reading from an author, unless one is a literary critic, they wouldn't buy the same book again. In this case it is the same, if you don't like the teachings of someone, move on; there are many other authors in the alphabetical list. 

Obsessing with someone with the idea of bringing them down is more detrimental to you than it is to them. And that thing call karma. Yes, sit and wait for karma to pay you a visit. We are all responsible for our actions and their consequences. Throwing the stone and hiding the hand does not work. The Universe is always watching. 

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Heartbreak And The Death Of Ego.


Most people grow up with the belief that meeting the ideal romantic partner is the answer to their personal quest for love. I agree with the notion that meeting a person to share life with makes it a more pleasant experience at a personal level. However, the answer to learning and understanding love lies in the universal. What we truly are looking for is unconditional love. That love that embraces all and everyone. 

Living under the illusion that romantic love is the answer, one will keep searching for that one person. Once we find them, they will match the criteria firmly established through thoughts and beliefs. Every person reunites all loving qualities we seek, but we will fall in love with their uniqueness and personal characteristics, as well as their physical attributes. The belief is, that only when we meet them we can be complete. 

At the beginning we convince ourselves that "this is the one." And it might be. There are people who manage to live with just one partner throughout life.It is not coincidence that for most people this moment never comes in their lifetime. 

I have to be in a relationship because I have to be in a relationship simply does not work.

Our understanding of love and relationships varies as we grow. The more experienced we are and if reaching healthier levels of being, the more selective and demanding we become. The other fact is that as we age, we get a better understanding of the self, being more comfortable with the idea of being alone, gaining in patience and considering all possibilities before one decides to begin in a new relationship. The sense of independence grows stronger and there is no longer need to compromise or give it away to the first one to come. Like everything else in life, often we must say no before we get the right yes.

When loneliness is added to the fantasy of romantic love that we have been sold, we are driven by an energy that will make imperative to be in a relationship. Such energy plus the suffocating state of being create an unrealistic need, somehow fuelled by a sense of desperation. The search for love is very real and authentic in everyone. How we find such love and with whom is a very different matter. 

If a relationship is the ultimate goal, the motivation is blind and so it's the perception to identify what our real needs are. At this stage we are open and willing to invite more people into our lives than we would if we were in a healthy state of mind and being. The results can be disastrous, as it is very likely that we end up with someone in the same frame of mind. 

The intention to experience love might be most authentic, but two people united by the desperate need of loneliness would find solace only for a period. The search continues within. In this case separation is inevitable, as they both have settled for the first one that appears to fill the void. 

A more practical example of this modern phenomena is depicted on social media on a daily basis. Two people meet and 'fall in love' one day. What follows from that moment on is a dance of drama, egos and demons struggling to find a common ground. Separation comes shortly after. Drama and demons continue dancing, but now the exhibit is from a more acute state of loneliness and even bitterness. The idea the love was going to solve the problem is dissolved. What is left is a greater sense of worthlessness, affecting confidence and self-esteem. 

At this point one can rethink the scenario, be patient and learn about the self or to continue kissing frogs until the prince appears.

There are claims of pain, suffering and heartbreak. One is immediately broadcasting to the world that they are over relationships, as "all men and women are the same." And in a way they might be right, but from a different angle: we are all looking for love and to be loved. But it might not be with you. This realisation hurts, and what hurts most is the ego. 

Ego has been wounded and it's seeking retribution. The whole male population or the entire female species are to blame for their pain. After the immediate reaction and venting their frustrations to the world, the same person claiming to be over relationships is again in love with someone else and back to square one. 

First, no one can be truly heartbroken and fall in love with someone else within two days or two weeks. This is ego at it again, getting another quick fix in order to suffocate the unbearable existential pain of the self. What is happening is that ego has been bruised. It does hurt, and we might even call it heartbreak, but it is essential to understand that we are responsible for our feelings. No one else is responsible for it.

This phase is not heartbreak, but a little insight into it from which people recover soon. When you experience heartbreak you will know it, as it will take you to a different dimension from which only you can come out after going through the feelings and emotions that one encounters there. 

Heartbreak is necessary in order to heal. Every failed relationship; every small incursion into it, is what you need at the time. Just know that this is ego suffering and deal with it accordingly. It is not an experience intended to make you suffer, but to separate from ego. Don't hate the other because they made you suffer for a while. However much it hurts at the time, the outcome might be a small step into the destruction of your ego, but they also invited you into their world for a while. 

This so-called heartbreak is the gradual destruction of the ego. It might feel bad and look bad, but there is nothing wrong with destroying egos when the intention was to love. Some people are better than others at it. We call them heartbreakers and their mission in life is to wake you up. After all, you invited them into your life because this is what you wanted to experience. 

You put all your faith and belief in one person to experience love, make you happy and give you a sense of completeness. At this stage it might be time to consider and reconsider that relying on others to find what you want, might not be the answer. Love is within. If you cannot find it there, you will never find it anywhere. What you meet and find would be an illusion instead. 

Deep inside we all know whether a relationship is going to work or not even before it begins, but if in doubt, we can always check with our egos. The wise will choose advice from the higher self. Both, ego and the higher self are always there. Let's be more careful who we ask to and what we listen to.

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Separating From Someone's Drama: The Healthy Step For Everyone.


I believe that it is essential to recognise the moment in which we have to listen to people and their problems, and when to separate from their drama in order to preserve our well-being, as well as to avoiding falling prisoners of a dynamic of toxic energy that leaves no room for any positive outcome. 

Years ago a friend was going through a very depressive period. She couldn't see anything positive about herself. Even though one could say she had reasons to feel in such a way, it was also an illusion, as there were also many reason she had to celebrate life. For weeks I met with her every evening and weekends for as long as it was necessary, and sometimes after meeting she would call me late in the evening to discuss some of her issues. 

Although we never discussed it, from the beginning it was clear to both of us that I wouldn't allow her to use self-deprecating language or to maintain that attitude while working together. She was depressed, but she was also hammering herself down with every belief and expression she voiced. There is only one possible outcome to lingering in the energy of such behaviour and that is to feed low vibrations and remain depressed. 

While talking about everything negative in their lives is normal behaviour in people who cannot see anything positive, the purpose of giving support, time, love and energy to others is to help them improve the situation; never to help and validate their current state. I also believe that it is important for people to express everything they are holding within, and we must allow for this to happen, as long as they can expand on it in order to find the root of the problem.

One of the problems that people face and I see on a daily basis working with clients is that most of them do not know how to identify or express a feeling or emotion. Instead most people concentrate on the details of their situation. Whether it relates to a bad relationship, money, work or any other issue that most of us must face at one point or another in life, one of the main problems remain in the inability to express emotion. 

In my friend's case, she was looking for answers and to feel better, so after a couple of days she could see that holding on to drama was not the right answer. She was willing to listen. The principle is that they begin listening to someone else with a very different perspective of life, so eventually they can listen to a more positive voice within themselves. But this is not the case with everyone at all times. 

There is a different type of behaviour that represents a serious danger to everyone involved. It is when the person holds on to their drama in order to perpetuate it. What they seek is someone who serves them as a container in which to release the negative energy of their situation. When this happens, any conversation is always identical to all previous conversations. When we buy into this, all we are doing is to enable them and their drama. It is a trap that we must be able to recognise.

It might seem unkind to cut short someone who's going through hard times, but in the end this is the kind thing to do. There's no need to be rude about it. A simple: "I can't do this anymore" should suffice. No explanations required. If you are experiencing a similar situation, do not hesitate to stop it. The reason for this is to let them know that they have to find a different way to deal with their situation. 

Since I made my work public, I have been contacted by numerous people with all sorts of problems. It is not essential for me to listen to all the details of someone's drama for an hour. Five minutes is usually enough for me to see the situation, although it never takes five minutes to solve the problem. My approach is always the same. I focus on providing solutions, not in talking endlessly about anyone's drama. My friends also understand this. No drama, only solutions. For as long as we concentrate on drama, there is only drama. Nothing else.

A few months ago I was contacted by a friend whom at the time was going through heartbreak after the abrupt end of her relationship. The first thing I told her was that I was going to tell her the opposite of what she wanted to hear and suggested what she had to do in order to come out of the experience empowered. At no point during the conversation she insisted in talking about any drama, other than to tell me that "it hurts".

She didn't particularly like the fact that she couldn't follow the steps her mind was telling her to do, but she went along with it anyway. Only a few weeks later she got in touch again to tell me how wonderfully she was feeling. While I probably played an important part in her recovery and empowerment, the essential factor was that she was prepared to go through it and did all the work necessary that allowed her to feel in such a way. And this is credit that only she can take.

Today she is in a new relationship, feeling loved and valued for who and what she is. Even though I haven't heard from her in months, I know that she's well and that going through heartbreak not trying to run away from her feelings has changed her life forever. I have no doubts that if in the future she faces a similar situation, she will deal with the it herself from a much stronger stance and that she will succeed once again.

When I see such beautiful stories of recovery, knowing that taking responsibility for our lives,- which includes our feelings and emotions-, I cannot enable anyone whose only intention is to keep sucking the energy out of me or anyone else to continue doing so. When those who feel trapped by their personal dramas talk about it, they do not even change a comma from previous conversations and will try and find as many people as possible so as to enable them in order to continue existing in the position of the victim. As long as they find an outlet, they will feel validated. If they are doing it to you, do not doubt for a minute that they did it to someone else before and will continue doing it to others for as long as they can. 

The last time I stopped someone from trying to do this to me, I received all sorts of abuse one can imagine and they an attempted to blackmail me emotionally. If you were to take this step, be ready to hear a few unpleasant things and then let it go. It is better to suffer this once for a few of minutes than to be the only depository of someone's negative energy over a prolonged period of time, which eventually will have a detrimental effect on your health. 

There are other ways in which we can help our friends and family. This is by focusing on a solution, never buying into their drama. For something to change, the person affected must be prepared to make a change in their lives. There is a time to talk, and there is a time for action. Action is what solves problems. Talking alone is avoidance. And avoidance is nothing but fear of change and fear of what might find within.

The reason why certain people insist in perpetuating drama is because it is familiar and for as long as they're allowed to continue doing so, they don't have to sit down and face their feelings and emotions, as when they do; they know they have to face their demons. And that is the scariest mirror to look into, as the only way to succeed is to face their demons alone. But only when we do we can find the courage that we all have within and that undoubtedly will help to overcome any fears we might have.

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