A few months ago I decided to start writing about twin flames because there seems to be a lot of confusion and misunderstanding regarding the subject. Three blog posts later, I am still receiving messages from numerous readers asking me the same question. Is this my twin flame?
Whilst in many cases it would be possible to answer such questions, it is a process that requires plenty of work and wouldn't offer a complete answer. There is no certainty in love, as there is no certainty in anything else. One day everyone will realise that the magic of life lies in uncertainty and spontaneity. Life changes and so do people.
Looking for certainty in someone else's answers prevents us from finding our own answers, and worse, there is a risk that we become accommodated, taking for granted that the fact that we met with our twin flame means a lifetime together. When we take someone else for granted, we are beginning to say goodbye to them. Love is action and must keep moving from beginning to end. In the same way we keep feeding our fears with worry, we can feed love to energise it and make it grow. Movement and action inspire creativity and produces more love. The problem is, that most of us return to the same old paradigms, beliefs and habits that make us stagnant, preventing anyone from evolving and knowing who we really are.
As I wrote in previous articles, the twin flame will only appear when we are ready to receive them. It is true that there are ways in which we can accelerate the reunion. Certainty or a false sense of safety are not them. Love in a relationship is in itself an adventure that we must experience fully and from which we have a great opportunity to learn who we really are, whether we are with a twin flame, soul mate or anyone else. The unknown is full of charming surprises. One way to understand and learn from these situations is to let go of our need for control and allow what happens within the relationship. True love only appears with the end of ego.
We only meet with the twin flame when we are prepared to let go of who we are not, and embrace who we truly are. This is the end of the world as we know it. Our own and very private world. Only when this happens, we open to love. For this, we neither need to be in a relationship, nor meeting with a twin flame. All we have to do is accept our truth, so as to open up to new worlds and new dimensions that we forgot existed. The dimension of love.
The process is easier with a twin flame for one simple reason. When we meet with the twin flame, the attraction is irresistible and we have fallen in love with the perfect mirror to get to know ourselves in depth. The person we have in front of us is an identical reflection of us. However attractive this might sound, it is also a reason for destruction and self-destruction. The death of the ego.
Being with the twin flame is up to the present moment the most enticing and inspiring relationship we ever had. The level of understanding is greater than anything we have experienced before. It allows us to experience life in joy and love. Our intentions are the best we ever had, and we are in love. The honey moon period is close to perfection according to what we have experienced in previous relationships. It's time to celebrate and dream of a life of togetherness.
When we pledge our soul in love to someone else, being them a twin flame or not, an inner awareness and determination should wake up. This is how we a begin to allow the destruction of the ego. From that moment on, we are determined to not lie to the other person. Lying to them or to anyone else equals to lying to the self. It is a different kind of truth and understanding that must be taken into consideration.
In the presence of a twin flame, all our demons and fears gather together to reflect the truth we have been denying ourselves to that point. And it is pointless to even try and deny our truth. It is, however, a false truth. Truth being our feelings and emotions. Jealousy, anger, possession, control, etc. They know what we think and what we feel. Now try and lie to them. Lie to them and you are not only lying to yourself, you are beginning the process of separation.
The situation that is created can be excruciating, as, not only you are facing your demons and fears all at once, your twin flame is also having the same experience. It is a wild reunion of demons and fear dancing with a vengeance. You are also the perfect reflection for all that is good and all that is bad in them. How we act or react to such situations determine the future of the relationship. Be comforted and aware, that both, demons and fears are illusions that get you distracted from who you really are: a being of love and light.
By accepting our truth, the immediate impression that we have is that we become weaker. The ego is resisting the process of its destruction. We have admitted to being jealous for no reason. The ego is in a state of alert and it's going to fight it. Ego would do anything at hand to prevent any changes or letting go of control. Ego is also a very clever entity -not intelligent- and has an incredible ability to reinvent itself.
In addition, once we admit to something that we have not allow ourselves to accept previously, the only thing we can do is to feel that emotion. When we find the courage to do so, we also lose another ally that we had throughout life: the power to express ourselves through language.
Once I have admitted to being jealous -even when I see that there's not one logical reason for it, and I know in my heart that my twin flame will never betray my trust- and decided not to react to it, I cannot longer validate my existence with statements such as: I've never been jealous in my life, as it automatically becomes a false statement. This is only an example of what might happen. Finding the courage to admit it, even if this is only to ourselves and having the patience to go through the experience being overwhelmed by the emotion of jealousy is crucial in the inevitable journey towards love.
It is a period for silence, meditation and self-reflection as we adapt to a new way of living.
This is unfortunately a very difficult step. Dealing with such emotions make us physically weaker and might give the impression that we are depressed. We are neither weaker, nor depressed. We are learning new ways of living and feeling. If you can be humble enough to admit your flaws; two magical things will happen. One: you will realise that you are none of those things, but patterns that you learned in your childhood; and two: those feelings and emotions become so weak, than if they ever appear again, eventually you will be able to get rid of them with ease.
I also see there's certain confusion regarding the longevity of the relationship with the twin flame. They might stay or not. For the twin flames to remain together, it is necessary that they both engage in this process of truth and deal with their emotions. It is possible that one or even both decide to keep lying to themselves. This is not a malicious way to lie, but a self-defense mechanism that have allowed us to make it to this day. Which path we want to choose is a very personal choice. Sometimes twin flames are not ready to be reunited for long periods, so as to achieve the level of consciousness required to experience true love. Most people are not.
Whilst romantic love and relationships are wonderful experiences in life, nothing guarantees that someone will remain in love or in a partnership for the rest of our lives. We are here to experience life and love, to dance, to sing, to be creative and help each other grow. Sometimes people need to continue their experience alone without us, and we must let them go if that is their decision. There cannot be true love without letting go either.
At the level of consciousness the world is currently in, not many will remain with their twin flame. However, collective consciousness could rise and change at any time. Then, we will all realise that love is not so much about personal gain and satisfaction, but about loving each other from a place of acceptance of others as they are and freedom. But it is not true that twin flames cannot remain together, as many readers have understood. They can. One also have consider what's their life mission and what they came here for. The soul is free, and must continue being free.
These articles are written with the intention to share a message, knowledge and helps others to have a clearer understanding of situations that they may be facing, never to give uniformity to all experiences. No one knows your experience better than anyone else, and how you face and evolve during these experiences will determine the outcome. If you believe that once you meet your twin flame, they will leave you, the most likely scenario is that they will. In this sense, the same principle applies to the believe that you will never find the job you want.
Considering the current state of the world, the egoistic society we live in and the low level of collective consciousness, the arrival of the twin flame in your life is intended to lead you to the end of the world as it is right now. You can only become a better person. Rejoice that you've met and make the best of it. No matter what happens, let go and keep loving them. The relationship never ends. We are forever united.
Sometimes, letting go is as simple as overcoming the need to control everything and everyone. You are the first one who wants to be free, we cannot expect anything less from others. Love is freedom and acceptance.
Let go of the twin flame idea and allow life to flow. It is more likely that they will then appear.
More about twin flames:
Twin Flames: A Love Affair.
Twin Flames: The One That Got Away.
For the past two years I have been sharing the message of the Goddess, the Divine Feminine and the Wild Woman. Not everyone like this message. During this period I heard numerous things no one should ever hear, or have been accused of things not worth mentioning. What others may think of me or of others, has nothing to do with anyone, but them. We see what we want to see and hear want to hear. My response: to keep quiet and hold the fort. I believe in what I do. We do not have to explain ourselves to others, especially not to those that do not want to understand. There has also been an abundance of wonderful feedback and support, from both men and women.
By emphasising how important the return of the Divine Feminine is, -and why- I know that the obvious and visible fact seems that I only focused my attention and intention on women, and by default neglected men. In a world were gender identity still has such a strong hold on the population, this line of thought is not surprising.
What it seems obvious to the untrained eye does not necessarily make it true. Timing is very important when it comes to share a message. Whilst it is true that during this period I have seen a large group of women uplifted and thriving, as the message helped them to remember who they are, the intention was not solely to empower women. Every word I write is to inspire both, men and women. I cannot interpret everything for others. Hopefully the message today will make sense by the end.
If there is something that unites men and women is the pursuit of love. Romantic love specifically. This makes us equal to a soul level. In this sense we are not divided by gender, but driven by the soul. However, this is a topic for a different blog post.
Regardless of what I have written in the past, my purpose and intention is to help men to find a common language to express ourselves, so as to make sense of this world. I also want to see men uplifted and thriving. The fact that I don't like the attitude and that false sense of entitlement does not mean that I do not care or don't want to help.
Traditionally men have been hunters, the providers. This time is long gone and we men are lost in an identity limbo without purpose or direction. From hunters and providers we have turned into disposable subjects to a system that does not provide for either men or women.
The majority of men have grown with such illusion to find out that, there is no longer room in this world for heroic acts in the traditional and dramatic sense that we all have been led to believe. In 'Balancing Energies: Restoring Male Energy And Raising Female energy' I wrote extensively about the upbringing of male children and the conflict we face when realising that everything is a lie.
It is a subtle lie, but one to which we have been exposed for such a long period that when we face the crude reality of adulthood, most of us cannot interpret. Patriarchal society has taught men that women are less, and even a commodity to satisfy our immediate needs. In a world that is moving towards the equality of both genders, the lost of 'ownership' and 'superiority' causes frustration, anger and even hatred towards women due to their unwillingness to comply with our most primal desires.
Instead of taking responsibility and look back at the false education we received, so as to challenge it with self-parenting and self-education, the easiest way to vent such frustration seems to blame women as a collective. But it is not only women that suffer the consequences. We also blame society, forgetting that we are society, and that it is our responsibility to change it to what we want it to be. No one escapes this responsibility, with the exception of children. By blaming others we give away all our power, adopting a passive role, similar to that of childhood when parents decided what was right and wrong or what we did next.
In adulthood we have the ability to find freedom. The freedom of one is the freedom of all. As long as there is one single soul suffering, true freedom is not possible.
The most flagrant act against the liberty and freedom of women is rape. Society's attitude towards rape is that it is something that happens. We continue allowing it with the assumption that there is nothing we can do to stop it, as it is generally an act that takes place in private. The truly worrying fact is the lack of interest of the authorities to tackle a problem that it is now endemic. We men as a collective are closer to the cave man than we might believe. If we add the permissiveness of the authorities to the illness, we have one true weapon which serves to keep humanity living in fear, and worst: rape is one way to coerce the development of the Divine feminine, so as to keep the level of consciousness conveniently low.
Men, both individually, as well as collectively still have a great potential to evolve. Do not believe the message of the main stream media that argues that as species we cannot longer evolve. It is our responsibility to pick our battles and re-educate ourselves and others.
The true modern hero is that who stands for what he believes and knows that the actions of one have an effect on our immediate surrounding. And it is as simple as intervening to stop the misogynists. One doesn't have to go far to encounter such events. A conversation in a bar, often initiated by peers in the name of having a good time is a the perfect moment to put our foot down and demand respect for others. Have you ever considered how many times you've shaken the hand of a rapist?
These events take place all over the world and are even often tolerated in professional environments. It is time for men to unite in a common cause. We all know what is right and what is wrong. There's no need for me to tell anyone, but we must be vocal about it and take action. Perhaps being tough at school to avoid bullying was the only survival choice we had, although it comes at a price: we separate from our true selves and in most cases the damage is permanent, resulting in lifelong suffering.
Be an every day hero and contribute to re-educate those that surround you with your actions. It might be hard at first, but eventually when our actions are taken for the good of the collective, these are inevitably followed by rewards. Your contribution might help to save the suffering of your mother, your sisters, girlfriends, wives, friends and daughters. Education is a lifelong journey. It doesn't end at school.
The message that women will change the world is loud and clear, but it is necessary that they find support in men. The misunderstanding comes when men believe that this movement is to replace patriarchy with matriarchy. Women still have to work on themselves and also evolve to make possible such reality, by getting closer to the Wild Woman. It is not about handing the keys of the kingdom, so as women can do as they please. But it is important that men understand that it is not about enslavement or submission, but integration. The only possible way we are going to make it through as a race is together. This is only a possibility when we, both men and women join forces towards one love and freedom.
Fortunately there are already many men who understand this message. This blog post does not intend to criticise men, but to awaken each one of us to the reality we are living in and change it consciously. After all, we have been educated to think, feel and act in such abusive manner. If you are a man, ask yourself this question, with your history of involvement with women, your thoughts and ideas towards them, would you allow your daughter to date you? If the answer is yes, congratulations, you did well for yourself, but if the answer is no, you end this sentence .....
One last sad fact is that I have tried on several occasions to reach out to men. Sad due to the lack of interest and response. It is clear that women are much more interested in evolving and developing that we men are. The questions are; what do men truly want? and how are we supposed to find the answer if we never ask?
Finally, the reason why we men have to evolve and support women so as to change the world is a very healthy one. We need a new vision. It is as simple as that. A new vision of the world. A more colourful and magic world. This is only possible through the feminine eye, something that we men will only be able to see when we get in touch with the Divine Feminine within each man and realise that all we want, both, men and women is love, only love. Let's go of our need to control everything. We had centuries to find the answers. See what we created, what we have destroyed and consider if you want to continue living in this world as it is. What it might seem as a sacrifice today, will return to all of us with abundant rewards.
It is a matter of allowing something we are unfamiliar with. Let's forget about our immediate and past experiences with women and lets allow them to flourish. The fact that we have not yet seen the true potential of women, as neither have we experienced the full potential of men is because by suppressing and suffocating others we suppress ourselves. If you are reading this, I know you have enough ability to discern and to make your own decisions. It is your choice now. It has always been your choice. I made mine long ago. I do not want to live in a world in which by association I am a potential rapist or a pedophile. Do you?
A woman gave us life. Now it's our turn to give life to women and to a new world.
It has been suggested to me often that I work with men in order to help them to find true love with the right women. It is a possibility, but for today and just in case this message is not clear enough, here it is. By publicly supporting and helping women to see their true beauty, I gained their love, support and respect. That's all it takes. My intention was a healthy one and I never asked anything in return. This is very important. If I have not been clear about this earlier was because the only way that we can show others is through action.
The process to understand women can be a very complex one or not at all. Who said that they have to be understood? Try and love them all unconditionally, not asking anything in return and without ulterior motives and see what happens. Love is the language to use. Only remember this, love is action. Words are not really necessary.
The following blog post provides a useful tool to a life changing experience, and new beginnings.
How A Spiritual Reading Can Transform Your Life Immediately.
Opening the heart to love is a matter of perception. It can be an easy process or an impossible one to achieve. Although there's not a particular order in the steps one has to follow; awareness is needed, as well as a strong intention. When the intention is strong, obstacles become simple anecdotes fairly easy to overcome. Intention ignites passion.
Miracles do happen when someone is on a personal quest to open their hearts and find love within. When the intention is strong enough, passion becomes a healthy ally. Mistakes will be made, even if we are moved by the best intentions. Don't beat yourself up. You are human and mistakes are part of being one. Within every mistake, there's a lesson to be learned.
The awareness that is required lies in the wisdom found within each mistake. Let's drop any ideas of perfection we may have and any sense of self-importance. A paradigm shift can only take place when we let go of old beliefs. Trying to be perfect, we forget we already are. Embrace your mistakes and flaws. We all have them. Focus instead on your intention. Awareness will help us to make the choices that lead to an open heart.
When a strong intention is set, we are also opening ourselves to courage. Courage is always there, but as most of humanity lives in permanent state of avoidance, we don't use it and we don't know it. Tap into it and own it. It belongs to you.
Love is everywhere around us, yet, we find it difficult to recognise it even if it's standing right in front of us. This is where choice and awareness play an important part. It could the be case that you are not providing enough love for yourself. This is represented in your immediate environment. Your home, your room, your fridge, your clothes, your job, your relationships and everything else that forms part of your reality. Pay attention to your words and thoughts. Are you set on a cynical mode in which possibilities are limited and based on what you see directly?
If this is the case, it is OK. If your intention is strong enough it will also change this perception. To open your hear to love, you must go where you would not normally go and see those things in front of you that you can see.
Let's begin with our surroundings and a practical example. As you go out of the house in the morning, observe people's homes or gardens. Abundance of love and care has been put into arranging a comfortable home. Look at people and what they do. If visiting a public place -a coffee shop is a good example-, pay attention to the smiles and greetings you will meet. Be prepared to receive. Even better if you begin the day with a smile. Breathe. Pay attention to yourself and your body. What is it that you want and what are you expecting?
To open your heart, you must be able to see and appreciate those signs of love even when they're not directed a you. A couple going to work together. Parents showing affection to their children. If you look for it, you will see hundreds of examples every day, but these are actions that we take for granted, and as they don't have a direct effect on us, we tend to overlook them. It's not easy to see the magic of life unless we're tuned in.
The fact that we are presented with the same scenario every day in our daily routines does not help to see it. But it's there. It's always there. Perhaps it's not touching you directly, reason for which you might not be paying attention. Once you see the first one, you will see more taking place.
When witnessing these episodes, take a deep breath and take it in. You are witnessing love. Celebrate with a smile. It might seem mundane, but these are the signs you are looking for.
There is also a need for action. Years ago I went to a retreat. My feelings were divided between scepticism and hope. My only reference about the program they provided came from a friend who told me that they were very good. While I had little or not trust in others doing anything good for me, I also felt compelled to be there, so much so, that I borrowed money to pay the entire fee. The retreat was facilitated by Claudio Naranjo and the wonderful members of his staff. I didn't know who Claudio was then.
As we arrived, it was easy to recognise anxiety in everyone at the moment of introductions. I didn't know what I was doing there or what I wanted, but I was desperate enough to jump at anything that might help me to feel better. Intuition played an important part to take me there, as well as to make decisions that would soon change my life.
First, I was determined to succeed. With this in mind and heart, I decided that I would do my best at anything they asked from me and that I would work with whoever wanted to do an exercise with me. The first exercise was of course with another sceptic. It was perfect.
There were people in the group to whom I would have never approached in my life. In fact, I would have avoided them on purpose, never getting to know who they were if given the chance, but I had already set a strong intention. Instead of asking those I would have rather spent time with, I allowed people to come to me and ask me first. I always said yes. When I tried to do an exercise all by myself, I had to work and help with the person I wanted to work the least with. But when we worked together, it was an amazing experience and my perception of them changed completely.
The reason why I didn't want to have to do anything with them had nothing to do with them, but with me. They all had traits I didn't want to recognise in myself, depression, sadness, anger, hate or arrogance. At this stage it is important that we use courage and admit to our own truth and deal with it rather than avoid it.
What happened next was magical. As the days advanced and the exercises and exchanges took place, magic happened. Not only my heart opened to love, but also the hearts of others. The more I worked with people I would have avoided, the more the heart opened, until there was nothing in anyone else to dislike.
Within two days and even sooner, I was a new man. One of the exercises was with a man suffering from depression. It was such a powerful moment, as we helped and supported each other, that even other participants commented on how amazing our connection had been. And that was all it took, acceptance, connection and intention. After that, we both had a reason to rejoice. And this man no longer represented depression in my eyes.
The account I have given takes place in a retreat which is designed for the purpose of healing. Not everyone has this opportunity at any given time, so we must pick different places and our battles. Although we are not presented every day with such opportunities, these moments and possibilities can be found in our daily routine, and it could be as simple as trying to see the person who every morning serves us a coffee with a grudge. See the person, the soul, not their actions. Let's stop judging one another. We never know what others are going through and why they behave as they do. Be the first one to promote change by taking action. Smile, talk to them and try to establish a simple connection until that person is no longer a stranger.
The same applies to working spaces where we are presented with such opportunities daily. Be the one to promote change. Take the initiative. If you set your intention high enough, these steps, however challenging they might be, are also very encouraging. Do not be afraid to show others that you've changed and improved. Move from being detached to being a magnet to good things. If in doubt because of what other people might think of you, ask yourself a question. Would you rather people thought of you as the one who holds grudges and remains the same or as the one who changed into your real self; a man, a woman, a soul with an open heart?
Look at people's eyes, rather than at what they do, what they look like, where they work or how they dress. Find something to praise. Help them. Everyone is looking for love even if they don't admit it. It's easy to argue that we don't need love when we believe we can have it. The truth is that you can have it.
This is a daily practice. Do this for a week and see how your life changes. Forget and forgive. And above all, forgive yourself.
If you were interested in healing or self-improvement you might want to consider whether you'd like to spend your next holiday in an exotic place of choice or attending a retreat where you can work on yourself and meet new and wonderful people. In my experience, no holiday has had the effect on me that these retreats with Claudio Naranjo offered. Pick your retreat, therapy and following your intuition choose those who might be able to help you.
This is not advertisement. I don't work for Claudio or have no personal/financial interests in his affairs. I am sharing this information because Claudio, his staff and methods had a great influence in the man that I am today, and the more of us to heal, the greater the effect we all will have in the world. Claudio organises events in different parts of the world.
As you advance in the journey, opening your heart to love, you will see more and more miracles. This is only a small guide to where to look and what to look for. In the end, what matters is your experience. You might want to look at it from a different perspective.
How A Spiritual Reading Can Transform Your Life Immediately.